Tap into your resilience

Yesterday we celebrated the four year anniversary of my father’s passing. The word celebration may sound shocking to some or inappropriate, but for those who knew my father’s spirit will understand. I had planned to write this blog yesterday, yet I decided to reminisce about the memories instead of writing.

Did you know that people’s smells in clothes remain for a very long time? I remember coming home from the hospital on Sunday morning 18 May 2014 and tried to close my eyes and get some sleep. I slept a few hours with his coat and his overwhelming smell had a soothing purpose.  His smell may be gone after four years, but the memories are still vividly present.

In my first blog, I wrote about how his death helped me find freedom, become my queen and how I started living in the present moment. Today I will continue to honor his legacy and share my reasons for how his death helped unlock my real potential. If this resonates, please share as you never know who is holding themselves back from achieving greatness. 

I am very open about my career developments and how I struggled for a very long time before moving into a more senior position. In my speech to Young Professionals in Foreign Policy in Brussels last year, I highlighted my career path and how I used failures as a redirection to something better and something I was destined to become.

What very few people know is that even though I passed my interview for this job, I was told I was not mature enough. My professional dreams collapsed, and I did not know how to proceed.

Luckily for me, I had overwhelming support from many colleagues and friends; even from those I expected it the least. When you spend your life giving without expectations, people remember. 

After a weekend of self-pity and crying my eyeballs out, my mind was in a state of unprecedented clarity. I had a choice in acting like a victim or getting my act together and finally become my biggest advocate. I decided I would give it one more try and then I will let go.

Seeking to understand before being understood is such a powerful principle, yet often underrated. Telling your story in the shoes of your audience is what creates your desired outcome. I put myself in the shoes of my senior leadership and convinced them why I was the best person for the job, how I have helped advance the organization in the past and how I would help them achieve specific objectives.

My mind, spirit, and body were one;  I did not flinch one second in telling my story. That moment was the truest and highest expression of myself and was the most liberating moment in my life.

I took a huge risk, and I had no idea what the outcome was. What even fewer people know is two days before I found out I got the job, my father visited me in my dreams. I remember the exact words he told me. I shared it with a very close colleague and a friend immediately who was in shock when those exact words became a reality.



18 May 2014. His smile is ingrained in my heart, always and forever.


Our loved ones never leave us, they are with us, always and forever. 

I went on and got the job and not only did I succeed and thrive, but I was also working with some of the best colleagues ever.  And my leadership turned out to be a pure joy working for.

The moral of my story and why I wanted to share with the world is that resilience is built over time. Discovering its power in some of your most difficult moments will transform your life in ways you never thought possible. 

I know my father was and is still looking out for me from above, and I know I will continue to break glass ceilings. Not because I seek material satisfaction, but because I want my struggles to serve a purpose and help others shine bright like a diamond.

Thank you for reading part two as I continue to honor my father’s legacy.


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